A Bit About Me
Kristin Halberg, Transformation Coach and Joy Retrieval Guide
Hi! I'm Kristin.
I'd love to empower you to re-member your most authentic self --the one who goes all out for what she believes in, stands her ground when her boundaries are pushed, and celebrates life with abandon, (instead of looking over her shoulder waiting for the other shoe to drop.)
I believe that all of us suffer from little bits of soul loss in our lifetime. Some of them come from major loss, such as those laid out as the "gates of grief" in the book The Wild Edge of Sorrow, by Frances Weller. Others are learned over time as we --(if you are attracted to my work) grudgingly, and with reluctance --assimilated ourselves to the norms of society.
In my experience, this soul loss --even if it happened so slowly we were barely conscious of it-- is one of the biggest causes of anxiety, depression, hopelessness and despair in our world.
I call this part of ourselves --the part we lost connection with-- our "Wild and Wise Self." The more we disconnect from her, the more we begin to armor and anesthetize ourselves to keep from feeling our disappointment, hurt, sadness, fear and loneliness. Without our Wild and Wise Self, we also lose touch with the gifts we came here to bring, and so lose a sense of our own intrinsic value; we start to buy into the societal story that our sense of worth comes not from who we are, but from what we do. And if what we do doesn't align with who we are ... really, deeply, authentically ... we further armor and anesthetize ourselves from feelings of inadequacy. All of this can land us in a vicious cycle that is hard to break away from.
As Brene' Brown says,
I'd love to empower you to re-member your most authentic self --the one who goes all out for what she believes in, stands her ground when her boundaries are pushed, and celebrates life with abandon, (instead of looking over her shoulder waiting for the other shoe to drop.)
I believe that all of us suffer from little bits of soul loss in our lifetime. Some of them come from major loss, such as those laid out as the "gates of grief" in the book The Wild Edge of Sorrow, by Frances Weller. Others are learned over time as we --(if you are attracted to my work) grudgingly, and with reluctance --assimilated ourselves to the norms of society.
In my experience, this soul loss --even if it happened so slowly we were barely conscious of it-- is one of the biggest causes of anxiety, depression, hopelessness and despair in our world.
I call this part of ourselves --the part we lost connection with-- our "Wild and Wise Self." The more we disconnect from her, the more we begin to armor and anesthetize ourselves to keep from feeling our disappointment, hurt, sadness, fear and loneliness. Without our Wild and Wise Self, we also lose touch with the gifts we came here to bring, and so lose a sense of our own intrinsic value; we start to buy into the societal story that our sense of worth comes not from who we are, but from what we do. And if what we do doesn't align with who we are ... really, deeply, authentically ... we further armor and anesthetize ourselves from feelings of inadequacy. All of this can land us in a vicious cycle that is hard to break away from.
As Brene' Brown says,
Your armor is preventing you from growing into your gifts. I understand that you needed these protections when you were small. I understand that you believed your armor could help you secure all of the things you needed to feel worthy of love and belonging, but you’re still searching and you’re more lost than ever. |
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It is my belief that you (yes, YOU!) have a specific role to play on Earth, that your gifts, talents, experiences and lessons come together in a unique way that only YOU can offer the world, and that re-membering, re-connecting with and re-integrating with your Wild and Wise Self will lead to you being the most authentically confident, centered, and grounded woman you know.
If this is a journey you're ready for, I'd be honored to walk beside you, hold your armor when you're ready to take it off, and offer my steadfast guidance and support.
Much love,
Kristin
If this is a journey you're ready for, I'd be honored to walk beside you, hold your armor when you're ready to take it off, and offer my steadfast guidance and support.
Much love,
Kristin
My Story
The story of my current life begins with the moment I hit the send button on an email to my then-boss's boss in early December of 2005.
At the time, I was in the midst of the umpteenth re-org of my career at of one of the fastest growing telecom businesses in the U.S. My new division was under pressure to take over and outsource a function that originally belonged to three separate divisions. Everyone in the two divisions that were being umbrella'd into the corporate facilities division (including me) thought the outsourcing company did shoddy work, and didn't trust them to be able to support the data centers that housed our customer interfacing systems. But we were being required to support the change anyway. On top of that, my new role added the management of five additional facilities to the three I was already responsible for ... without a pay raise. My new boss --a new boss-- had a steep learning curve, and didn't fully understand the roles I already played. She kept handing me more and more of her special projects on top of my regular work. Her boss was up for a promotion, and wanted the whole transition to go smoothly.
Retrospectively, the whole scenario was shrieking at me to simply walk away, but I was afraid. I'd been with the company for 11 1/2 years, and I didn't know where else to go or what else to do. It definitely wasn't my dream job, but the pay was decent enough and I'd earned up to four weeks of vacation each year. Despite the fact that I'd never felt seen or appreciated for all the money I'd saved the company over the years or the projects and programs I'd completed on-time and under-budget, the organization still felt like "home."
Ultimately though, after being pulled into a 1:1 with my boss's boss, who told me that usually "people like me" had been "weeded out of the organization before now," and after both bosses implied I was lying to get out of a meeting with them when a tree knocked down a power line --which blocked me into my driveway and narrowly missed crushing my car-- I'd had enough.
Even though I was terrified, I carefully crafted an email --a bit like the memo in Jerry Maguire, actually, except that I only sent it to my boss's boss ... with a couple of others blind copied for safety.
Anyway, long story short, that email led to my departure from the company. It was my first step back to living a life on my terms, without apology. Although I have tools now that may have changed my approach, it has been twelve+ years since that fateful day and I have not for one second ever regretted my decision to hit that send button. For better or for worse, that simple act catapulted me into a life where I am free to go all out for what I believe in, stand my ground when my boundaries are pushed, and celebrate life with abandon.
At the time, I was in the midst of the umpteenth re-org of my career at of one of the fastest growing telecom businesses in the U.S. My new division was under pressure to take over and outsource a function that originally belonged to three separate divisions. Everyone in the two divisions that were being umbrella'd into the corporate facilities division (including me) thought the outsourcing company did shoddy work, and didn't trust them to be able to support the data centers that housed our customer interfacing systems. But we were being required to support the change anyway. On top of that, my new role added the management of five additional facilities to the three I was already responsible for ... without a pay raise. My new boss --a new boss-- had a steep learning curve, and didn't fully understand the roles I already played. She kept handing me more and more of her special projects on top of my regular work. Her boss was up for a promotion, and wanted the whole transition to go smoothly.
Retrospectively, the whole scenario was shrieking at me to simply walk away, but I was afraid. I'd been with the company for 11 1/2 years, and I didn't know where else to go or what else to do. It definitely wasn't my dream job, but the pay was decent enough and I'd earned up to four weeks of vacation each year. Despite the fact that I'd never felt seen or appreciated for all the money I'd saved the company over the years or the projects and programs I'd completed on-time and under-budget, the organization still felt like "home."
Ultimately though, after being pulled into a 1:1 with my boss's boss, who told me that usually "people like me" had been "weeded out of the organization before now," and after both bosses implied I was lying to get out of a meeting with them when a tree knocked down a power line --which blocked me into my driveway and narrowly missed crushing my car-- I'd had enough.
Even though I was terrified, I carefully crafted an email --a bit like the memo in Jerry Maguire, actually, except that I only sent it to my boss's boss ... with a couple of others blind copied for safety.
Anyway, long story short, that email led to my departure from the company. It was my first step back to living a life on my terms, without apology. Although I have tools now that may have changed my approach, it has been twelve+ years since that fateful day and I have not for one second ever regretted my decision to hit that send button. For better or for worse, that simple act catapulted me into a life where I am free to go all out for what I believe in, stand my ground when my boundaries are pushed, and celebrate life with abandon.
Of course, that was only the beginning of my path to living a life I love and belong to ... I have many more stories of transformation before and since. But that email was my first leap of faith into a life where I build the bridge as I walk on it, and I deepened my trust in my Wise Self and my spiritual guides with each step of the journey.
As I set out to live a more intentional life, I amplified and strengthened my understanding of the ingrained patterns that hindered me in the past, both at work and in my personal life, and set my mind to learning and absorbing tools and techniques that helped me shed all of the coping mechanisms that were beneficial to me at one point in my life, but ultimately kept me stuck living a reactive life rather than belonging to a life I choose.
Today, my life is filled with activities that bring me joy and adventure; allow me to express my creativity, challenge me to deepen my friendships, and exchange my unique gifts with the world.
As I set out to live a more intentional life, I amplified and strengthened my understanding of the ingrained patterns that hindered me in the past, both at work and in my personal life, and set my mind to learning and absorbing tools and techniques that helped me shed all of the coping mechanisms that were beneficial to me at one point in my life, but ultimately kept me stuck living a reactive life rather than belonging to a life I choose.
Today, my life is filled with activities that bring me joy and adventure; allow me to express my creativity, challenge me to deepen my friendships, and exchange my unique gifts with the world.
My Work
I am a voracious learner, filled with curiosity. My influences are a bit of an eclectic mix and subject to ebb and flow with my life. However, the topics that interest me most are psychology, physiology, neuroscience, nature, spirituality, the expressive arts, poetry, and literature.
I continue to study with the masters, so my work is constantly growing and evolving. Click here to learn more about my influencers and my practical experience.
Over time, I pulled together the tools I found most efficient, effective, useful and magical and began teaching them to others. In the course of creating and growing my business, I have taken tools from each of these genres and blended them together in a way that is uniquely my own.The set of tools I share with my clients I call "Practical Magic."
It is these tools that I'd love to share with you so that you, too, can shed your false selves, identify your no-longer-useful coping mechanisms and protections, connect to your Wise and Wild Self, and live a life you truly belong to and love.
As Brene' says: "You were made to live and love with your whole heart."
Isn't it time you stopped reacting to life and started crafting a life you love?
I continue to study with the masters, so my work is constantly growing and evolving. Click here to learn more about my influencers and my practical experience.
Over time, I pulled together the tools I found most efficient, effective, useful and magical and began teaching them to others. In the course of creating and growing my business, I have taken tools from each of these genres and blended them together in a way that is uniquely my own.The set of tools I share with my clients I call "Practical Magic."
It is these tools that I'd love to share with you so that you, too, can shed your false selves, identify your no-longer-useful coping mechanisms and protections, connect to your Wise and Wild Self, and live a life you truly belong to and love.
As Brene' says: "You were made to live and love with your whole heart."
Isn't it time you stopped reacting to life and started crafting a life you love?
More About Me
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This past fall, my partner and I moved with our two dogs and a cat into a 40 acre homestead just outside Olympic National Park that belonged to his grandmother's family, the McNally's. The square log home was built in the 1890's by his great-great grandfather Wasankari on a property a few miles away. In the 1980's, his grandmother had the log home dismantled, moved to this site, and rebuilt ... like Lincoln logs! We have views of the Straits of Juan de Fuca, and get regular visits from a large herd of elk. I'm reclaiming our garden spots from grass and weeds and turning them into wild life havens. This year we have multiple varieties of song birds, hummingbirds, butterflies, dragon flies, frogs, garter snakes, bees, and more. |
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In addition to gardening, I read voraciously, make art from nature, hike the local trails and beaches with the dogs, and prepare wholesome yummy meals for friends and family.
Speaking of family, my dad passed away suddenly and quite unexpectedly in January 2017. My mom still lives in their home on Lake Crescent (where I grew up.) Four out of five of my siblings now live here on the Olympic Peninsula , meaning that nine of my fourteen nieces and nephews live close-by. Being an auntie / sister / daughter is an integral part of my life and you can often find me in the company of my family.
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